...In The BoxMan, written and narrated by Barbara Lazear Ascher, she uses the style of diction to compare and contrast the difference between the solitary and loneliness lifestyles. The reveals that “The BoxMan” has chosen a solitary life style and lives in solitude, she also gives two more examples such as the lady down the hall, or the lady in the shop. She creates and clear image that the man overcame loneliness and lives a life of solitude become his own friend. In the first few paragraphs she writes in a first person tone, observing the boxman, she uses words such as, “silent fervor”, “dogged by luck”, and that he sits with “slow care” and opens newspapers “with ease”, which would be opposite of what most people would think of a “lonely” person, but actually he’s living a life of solitude. She then uses words such as “bland stares”, “strangers”, “exile” to describe the lonely people, the lady down the hall and the lady in the shop. She provides the two examples of the lady in the shop, having a lonely lifestyle and assumes that she is all alone, she has kids but don’t want to see her, and she also talks about the lady down the hall that spends her time watching tv all day, which would seem normal to us, this provides her with credibility or ethos. She then demonstrates pathos, when she consistently questions herself “may she not know what the box...
"The Box Man," by Barbara Ascher
In the essay, "The Box Man," author Barbara Ascher illustrates the differences between chosen and unchosen loneliness. She supports her claims through allusions and observations of the people that she feels are lonely. Barbara Asher shows the reader that life is a lonely road where one has to be their own companion.
In the beginning of, "The Box Man," Ascher describes observations she made about a homeless man who collects cardboard boxes at night to furnish his home on the streets. She claims that, "One could live like this (p.8)," and further explains that children in her favorite book, The Boxcar Children were able to live a happy life on their own just like the Box Man. Then Ascher creates another allusion for the Box Man to a writer, Thoreau, who leaves his life to live peacefully in the woods. She categorizes both the men as being people who chose to be lonely and shows how the Box Man refused any help from the government because he enjoys the way he lives his life.
In the middle of the essay, Barbara Ascher declares that, "[The Box Man] is not to be confused with the lonely ones (p.13)." She then contrasts the life of two unchosenly lonely women, with that of the life of the Box Man. The first woman orders soup from a local coffee shop and wastes her time breaking Saltine crackers into a million pieces, just so she can fill her lonely void. The second woman is only noticeably lonely because of her six cats, plants and her television and lights on at early hours of the morning. Then, Ascher states that, "The Box Man knows that loneliness chosen loses its sting and claims no victims (p.19)," which shows that choosing to be lonely will not harm anyone, while not choosing does.
At the end of the essay, Barbara Ascher infers that the Box Man knows, "...this is a solo voyage (p.19)," which interprets that everyone is alone, no matter if it is denied or not. She supports this statement by implying that no matter who or what we ne to fill our lonely void, it wil always linger inside of us, so we might as well embrace our loneliness and love ourselves.